What Can BDSM Teach Us About Affirmative Consent?

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Consent is more than “no means no” and involves positive mutual decisions about acceptable and unacceptable activities. This video outlines the trauma-informed model for consent that Candace Liger crafted through her work in BDSM.

“I like saying yes more than I like saying no. Consent is powerful. Not only is it powerful, it’s liberating and kind of sexy. At bare minimum, consent is considerate.”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N0kduSrtohM