When Sex is a Bummer: How To Turn Your Sex Life Around

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How do you deal with sex or sexual encounters that are anything from disappointing to all-out lousy, and can there be hidden value in crummy sex?

“Sex and sexuality really are a lifelong learning process for everyone, and something people tend to become more comfortable and confident with over time. Like anything else, sex with ourselves or others is often something where our experiences improve with practice, and where, when we’re just starting — and I mean in the first decade or so of exploring, not the first few days, weeks or months — we’re more likely to experience more not-so-amazings as we are knock-your-socks-offs.”