My Story: Finding the Right Contraception

Mel shares her experience with finding the right contraception. She mentions many challenges that she has had to overcome to get closer to obtaining the right contraception that fits her individual needs.


OBOS Today: I see you have had an abortion? 

Mel: Yes, I had two, actually like the one year apart exactly which is super weird but that’s like- How does that happen? um. And let’s see the first one was like right when COVID lockdown happened so that was also difficult trying to get an appointment, and then the second one was like yeah exactly a year after so like five, Six months ago I’m not sure five months ago? Something like that, yeah. Hopefully we won’t have to do another one, because they definitely aren’t the most fun thing um but yeah, I’ve just I’ve had so much trouble finding contraception that works for me that that’s kind of why they happened um. But. Yeah. 

OBOS Today: So, were you using contraception when you became pregnant? 

Mel: Um I mean, I’ve been, I’ve been now a lot better about it; I was trying to do like charting. And I was trying to use a diaphragm, but I guess I just wasn’t as careful with it, as I should have been so. I also tried, so I wasn’t like using the pill or an IUD or anything that’s like very preventative. Trying to do alternative things just because all those things that I’ve tried in the past have been really disruptive to my system, just a lot of really negative side effects. I’ve tried like the pill; I’ve tried hormonal IUD, I’ve tried the copper IUD, that one was terrible that would make me super anemic. Just because it, I guess, for some women, it can like really increase the flow and the length of the period, so I just was losing so much blood on that one. And so yeah, I tried I just felt, like, I had so many that I got to a point where I was like whatever I’m just gonna get the thermometer and chart, but I guess I just didn’t, I just wasn’t diligent enough. Now, I say, I’m a lot more diligent, but it kind of takes a little while for your hormones to get regulated again after an abortion, so I guess that’s another reason why the second one occurred is because I was still trying to chart, but my stuff is a little wonky, and it’s still a little wonky as far as like regularity. Definitely better, but I still, I still haven’t mastered the whole charting thing. I think I’m just maybe not a diligent enough of a person to do that, but I’m a lot better about using the diaphragm now, which is yeah pretty old school, but it’s just so yeah, the only thing that’s kind of that’s I don’t know, been less disruptive and has fewer side effects. Though the spermicide can be kind of irritating. 

And I just like got a yeast infection, which I don’t know what’s from that or what so it’s not like without its own complications but yeah, I think it’s I’m still pretty frustrated with, um, just contraceptive issues. I’ve talked, I just feel, like, I’ve talked to so many doctors, and tried so many things and, yeah, it’s, it’s been frustrating. I’m like, yeah, I’m still not happy with where I’m at, and the options that I have. I’m hoping there’s something else out there, but I don’t know, maybe something will be invented.